"Life would be a lot more easier if people make a habit of talking to each other instead of talking about each other"

A very usual experience for all of us...you turn your back and people start talking about you, criticizing you and backbiting. Even your bestest friend won't miss this chance and take it as their responsibility. Through my experience, I have learned not to respond to such idiotic comments passed at your back, whether such comments fit into your personality or not. The moment you react, people will call you immature.So here is what I do in such a condition...stay calm and peaceful as if nothing has happened. Don't get hyper otherwise people will tag you as indecent and immature.Keep your mouth shut but eyes and ears wide open. Observe closely what is going around you. Sort out the people who support you not only on face but also in your absence. Gather allies around you whom you trust and rely that they will defend you in every walk of life. Make friends who, not only, insulate you from the problems, hardships and wrongdoings but also give you a hand of support when you fall from the ups and downs of life and who act as shade in the tiring way of life. Don't get dishearted from them if at anytime you come to know that they use your friendship to fulfill their needs. After all man is selfish by nature. It is this evil feeling of selfishness only that allows us to make relations with other people.What to do with your 'anti' people?? Simply turn a deaf ear to them. You can never stop a mad dog from barking...If you try to do so, the dog will bite you and cause you harm. The best response is not to respond.The best patience is shown by a person when he hears something wrong about himself and still controls his temper. Let them try all their cunning plans. Let your enemy show you all his weapons. But never create your weapons stronger than your enemy's. Instead make your shields stronger. You are not supposed to initiate a war. But it is sensible to defend yourself when the enemy attacks. If you feel that you don't have enough time or material to build a powerful shield, don't worry. Your God is always there to defend you. But for that you should have a pure and sincere heart free from all streaks of evil.

"No matter how good your intentions are.The world will always judge you from your presentation.And no matter how poor your presentation is..God will always judge you from your intentions"

A Very Normal Day

It was just another usual day.I silently turned 22 yesterday.I usually don't have any desires to celebrate my birthday through parties and outings.There was no sign of any specialty in yesterday, yet it was a good day for me because I had the day all for myself. I was alone at home all morning and this is one of the best gifts I can have as I enjoy loneliness for no logical reason.There were many birthday wishes on my facebook wall and some on my mobile, but as compared to last year, few people had wished me this time. However some of these few people were those from whom I wasn't expecting any wishes and few close people from whom I was expecting did not wish.Here is a cute video sent to me by a very good friend of mine for my birthday:

Anyways, I usually don't mind about people not wishing me.Life is getting busier day by day.People have more on their mind than others' birthdays.Its only through social networks like facebook etc that we remember each other's birthdays otherwise atleast I don't remember such special dates.So, my morning past reading mails all containing birthday wishes.I did some experiments for my breakfast as I had plenty of time.Then spent some time watching movie and kept on changing the T.V channels since morning shows are the most boring programs from my perspective.Nothing interesting was being telecasted.Had some mind freshening after that (read a really interesting book about Islamic history).Somehow the afternoon also passed. Evening was the best part of the day when my baby (my younger sister...I call her my baby ;) ) gave me a cute little pink card which had this note on it:
Happy birthday to
Sweet
Innocent
Super
Talented
Extraordinary
Remarkable
My sister is the most playful, fun loving, careless, least organised person in our family.She lives in her own world.I was not expecting a greeting card from her ;) The day ended with an icecream. Concluding it...it was a good, simple, silent and a very normal day. It wasn't like a day people usually like to have on their birthdays but for me it was one of the bestest birthdays although there was no celebration, yet there were so many wishes and above all I had all my loving and caring family members around me on this important day of my life.

My Idea Of Friendship

Few things which I want in my friendships:
> Feeling of possession:A feeling required for strong friendships but often causing disasters in relationships.When I make friends, I want them to be fully mine...a very dangerous and harsh feeling in such a delicate relationship yet very important for a strong bond in friendship.
> Fair relationship: By fair relationship, I mean the give and take attitude.When I make friends, I give them all they want whole heartedly but I expect the return of what I have given them.Return here means full attention and full importance.My friend should be able to give me instantaneously what I want and whenever I want...hard rules I know but this is my idea of fair relationship...purely business type ;)
> Less friends: The less friends you make, the easier is your life,the less difficulties you face in selecting your best friend, the less collisions in ideas coming from different minds of different people,the more time you can give to your friends...but the selection of such a precise friends circle should be highly accurate to include the most reliable and sincere people.
This is my theory of friendship.