A very usual experience for all of us...you turn your back and people start talking about you, criticizing you and backbiting. Even your bestest friend won't miss this chance and take it as their responsibility. Through my experience, I have learned not to respond to such idiotic comments passed at your back, whether such comments fit into your personality or not. The moment you react, people will call you immature.So here is what I do in such a condition...stay calm and peaceful as if nothing has happened. Don't get hyper otherwise people will tag you as indecent and immature.Keep your mouth shut but eyes and ears wide open. Observe closely what is going around you. Sort out the people who support you not only on face but also in your absence. Gather allies around you whom you trust and rely that they will defend you in every walk of life. Make friends who, not only, insulate you from the problems, hardships and wrongdoings but also give you a hand of support when you fall from the ups and downs of life and who act as shade in the tiring way of life. Don't get dishearted from them if at anytime you come to know that they use your friendship to fulfill their needs. After all man is selfish by nature. It is this evil feeling of selfishness only that allows us to make relations with other people.What to do with your 'anti' people?? Simply turn a deaf ear to them. You can never stop a mad dog from barking...If you try to do so, the dog will bite you and cause you harm. The best response is not to respond.The best patience is shown by a person when he hears something wrong about himself and still controls his temper. Let them try all their cunning plans. Let your enemy show you all his weapons. But never create your weapons stronger than your enemy's. Instead make your shields stronger. You are not supposed to initiate a war. But it is sensible to defend yourself when the enemy attacks. If you feel that you don't have enough time or material to build a powerful shield, don't worry. Your God is always there to defend you. But for that you should have a pure and sincere heart free from all streaks of evil.
"No matter how good your intentions are.The world will always judge you from your presentation.And no matter how poor your presentation is..God will always judge you from your intentions"